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How to talk to girls IRL without messing it up

Let’s get liberated!

Let’s free ourselves from only texting or snapping. Texts get misread and snaps disappear before your crush can reply. Let’s ditch our phones and show off our personality that just won’t fit inside a six-inch screen or a minute-long TikTok. And that’s awesome.

Here’s how to approach a girl, and how to talk to girls in real life.

THROW THE FEAR OF REJECTION OUT OF THE WINDOW

We’re not going to spend too much time explaining this because getting rejected isn’t even a big deal. It might happen, and that’s ok – there are plenty more fish in the sea. Or people to talk to and date. (We’re not sure where mermaids fit into that saying but we’ll roll with it.) 

HOW TO APPROACH A GIRL OR GUY

You mean you haven’t mastered mind control to make someone approach you? 

Knowing how to approach women is as important – if not more important – than knowing how to talk to women or guys. Here’s what you need to know:

  1. Believe in you. Waiting around is for fast food orders! If you see a girl you like, seize the moment and say hey. Or hello. The first word you say won’t be make or break. Unless you say something totally random, like ‘potato’. That might be a hard one to work back from…

  2. Be respectful. Treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen only works if they’re interested in the first place!

  3. Own your style. Sounds cringy, but there’s no one out there like you, and that makes you unique. Don’t be afraid to show off your personal style – the right girl will appreciate it. Whether it’s your favorite sneakers or a signature scent, choose things that make you feel good and help you stand out.

There’s no one out there like you, and that makes you unique. Don’t be afraid to show off your personal style.

HOW DO I TALK TO GIRLS OR GUYS?

Working out how to talk to a girl or guy you like the look of won’t take as much effort if you’ve got the ‘how to approach women or men’ technique on lock. Once you figure out how to get a girl to talk to you, you’ll be good to go. Here’s what’s up:

  1. Don't worry about your voice. Anyone you approach will probably be so interested in what you’ve got to say that a voice crack or two will slide right by. Nbd.
  2. Compliments. Who doesn’t like being complimented? Keep it light – they’re probably still totally in awe of this guy who’s just rocked up to say hi. Nice.
  3. Be direct. Say it loud and proud and see what happens. Or be super indirect and set them a riddle to solve before you ask them out. Both work! (Probably.)
  4. Figure out how to follow up. Just ask how you can talk later. Number, IG, snap, homing pigeon. Wait – that last one might be a rejection.

Whoa, end of the article already? Well, yeah, you’ve probably got it on lock anyway but it’s also because it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. Get out there and remember that you’re only going to get more confident the more you practice! And when you do get those digits, check out our tips on how to flirt over text. You’re welcome.