How to flirt over text 101

HOW TO FLIRT OVER TEXT: TOP 4 POINTS TO REMEMBER

 

1. The normal rules of conversation don’t apply

It’s fine to ask someone how they are but why can’t we make it spicier than the standard ‘Hey, how are you?’. Flirty text messages are the best places to be a bit daring and creative – be bold with something that they can’t ignore. Instead of ‘hey how r u?’, reference the last get together: ‘pretty sure I didn’t get to speak to you as much as I wanted’ or, ‘was it just me, or did you say yes to meeting up this week?’.

2. Keep it minimalist

Minimalism is the ultimate texting Feng Shui. Keep your flirty text messages exactly that – just the right amount of text to keep things interesting. Writing too much might come across too thirsty. It’s all about balance – if how to flirt on text were a sport, it would be table tennis – quick and fun (but keep your eye on the ball). And go wild with the emojis if you want – you know the vibe you’re going for.

3. Be suggestive…

This plays on the fact that your message may sound obvious – but isn’t always. How’s best to flirt with a girl or guy over text? Flirt a bit. Those emojis we mentioned can help you get your message across. Just don’t be too graphic with your emojis – leave something for the imagination! 

4. It’s all in the timing

Time your texts so that you’ll be at front of their mind throughout the day. This doesn’t mean a relentless bombardment of messaging. Remember: table tennis. Wait for them to reply before making your next move and know when to quit. A text in the morning for when they wake up, and a text before they go to sleep, is a thoughtful way of making an impression. Flirty good morning texts for her or him might innocently mention the fact that they were in your dream last night, no biggie. 

So, now you have the lowdown on how to flirt with a girl by text like a pro. But don’t get too serious – flirty texts for her or him can be all about the humor… be as fresh as your signature scent and remember, you’re teeing things up for when you meet IRL. Leave a bit to the imagination and keep a little bit of mystery. 

 

HOW TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE

 

Maybe, just maybe, you’re both keeping your cards close to your chest. The best thing to do on this occasion is to be upfront and honest about how you feel. They might be giving you mixed signals if they themselves aren’t sure about what’s going on. In this case:

• If this person is a friend, they’ll value honesty. It’s scary… but sit them down and tell them how you’re feeling. Worst case scenario is that it’s awkward for a short time. But hey, at least you know where you stand (or sit).
• Don’t press the issue. Sometimes things just aren’t meant to be. It’s better to save your energy for someone who’s actually into you and might be just sitting there, waiting for you to finally notice…

 

WHAT TO DO IF YOU CAN'T GET OUT OF THE FRIEND ZONE

 

Remember that all is not lost – chiefly, your friendship. And good friends can be hard to find. Plus, you can now move on, opening up the way for new romantic connections to be started – a nice safe distance away from the friend zone.

So, how to avoid the friend zone from happening all over again? It’s pretty natural to be friends before you start dating but, if possible, try dating someone who isn’t in your immediate friendship group. That way, you’ve still got your buddies, as well as that certain someone else.

And remember, in most getting friend-zoned cases, being ‘just friends’ is just enough.